Music Monday: Band of Horses “The Funeral”

This meme was created by Drew from The Tattooed Book Geek. You pick a song and share it on Monday. Please check out both of these blogs if you haven’t already.

I’ve had this song on my mind for some time. I started listening to the lyrics on Pandora and instantly it reminded me of my dad. Those of you that follow my “Lessons from Grandpa” posts might have heard about my dad’s story. Well, in a nutshell, I don’t know where he is any more or whether or not he’s alive. He’s been an alcoholic his whole life and never really had much use for me, my brother, or his grandkids. My brother and I just live our lives and it’s like we are in some sort of waiting and wondering if we will ever hear from him again. We’ve also had conversations with each other on whether or not someone will notify us if and when he dies. It’s an eerie thought that crosses my mind often, but I know that he will never stop drinking and has tried to take his life more than once.

This song reminds me of him because of the lyrics and the music video. In the video, you see people drinking, specifically a man. He then gets into a car and drives. I guess you just have to watch it and read the lyrics to get an idea where I’m coming from.

After doing research, I learned that the song meaning is written from a totally different idea, but it resonated with me.

Band of Horses “The Funeral”



I’m coming up only to hold you under
And coming up only to show you’re wrong
And to know you is hard; we wonder…
To know you all wrong; we warn.

 Ooooooooh Oooooooooh
Ooooooooh Oooooooooh

Really too late to call,
So we wait for morning
To wake you is all we got
To know me as hardly golden
Is to know me all wrong, they warn.

At every occasion I’ll be ready for the funeral 
At every occasion, once more, it’s called the funeral 
At every occasion, oh, I’m ready for the funeral 
Every occasion, oh, one billion day funeral

I’m coming up only to show you’re down for
And coming up only to show you’re wrong.

To the outside, the dead leaves lay on the lawn
For they don’t have trees to hang upon.

 Ooooooooh Oooooooooh
Ooooooooh Oooooooooh

At every occasion I’ll be ready for the funeral
At every occasion, once more, it’s called the funeral
At every occasion, oh, I’m ready for the funeral
Every occasion, oh, one billion day funeral


From the Album ‘Everything All The Time’ which can be found on Amazon. Just click the cover…

What are your thoughts on the song?

Thanks for reading…

17 thoughts on “Music Monday: Band of Horses “The Funeral”

  1. Wow again I’m struck how similar we are! I haven’t seen bio-Dad since I was 14, he is an alcoholic, he was also violent which is what tipped the scales for me. He has tried to reconnect at various intervals over the years but that all died when I learned via a newspaper he was in jail for abhorrent things. He’s back in on his second stretch now and I will never forgive him for what he has done and I’ve even settled myself with having no knowledge of his death when it happens, or worse finding out he has been murdered by a traumatised parent.

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    1. Claire, it’s hard to believe all that we have in common. I’m sorry you’re dealing with something similar. It’s sad and I try not to dwell on it, but it creeps.

      I think that maybe it’s good to not know what’s going on, but I still wonder. In your case, it seems even worse. I’m sorry to hear it, but it’s good that you’re at peace with it for the most part and that it doesn’t control your life. I think I’m there too. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤ Hugs.

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      1. I totally agree, you have to just switch off and not let it bother you. The fact his exploits and prison sentences make the paper is annoying as someone always seems to see it and send me a copy to be helpful. So I get a nice dose of what on earth just when I’ve managed to forget!

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  2. starjustin

    Such a sad video and I’m sure there are many who can connect with it in one way or another. I think back in time when you and your brother were small, and all I went through to keep the family together, and for what purpose. Alcohol destroys lives, not just the person affected, but also the survivors in oh so many ways.
    It’s sad when I think back to the beginnings when I never knew how things would be or what was to happen in the future. And now, like you said, he is gone and out of our lives for good and yet there is still a sadness to deal with that he will never realize.
    Good choice of songs to start your Music Monday. Great post!

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  3. David R. Dowdy

    I first heard Band of Horses on the Alt channel on satellite radio in 2012. The song was Is There a Ghost. Very enthralling music BOH make. Then I heard The Funeral and I thought of my Dad. He wasn’t an alcoholic, but he was old and I knew he didn’t have long in this world.

    Gosh, I’m sad to learn of how alcohol caused so much destruction in your lives. At the same time, I’m glad you’re strong enough to talk about it and share your experiences. My uncle, a few years younger than my Dad, was always an alcoholic and it ended his life too early. Such a consuming tragedy.

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    1. I’ve heard that song too, Dave. It’s good. I wonder how many people are thinking along the same lines as we are with The Funeral? It’s interesting because the song writer was actually writing about seeing family for funerals and get-togethers I think. To me the video makes it something else completely.

      Our family is fine, but we are left with the memories. As a child, I think realizing that it’s not your fault is the hardest to figure out. Some people just don’t want to change and nothing can help that. They have to be willing to help themselves and aren’t always willing. It’s a horrible disease.

      I’m sorry to hear about your uncle. It seems like everyone I talk to has their own story to share about alcoholism. I wish there were a way to exterminate it from this Earth. Thanks for sharing your story. ♡

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  4. Nel

    Wow. So sorry to hear about your dad Mischenko. Growing up I’ve never had a father figure, and it was probably for the best. When I finally did learn about my father, I was almost grown and it was too late to try and make that connection and I honestly didn’t want to. I like these meme. Look forward to future music Mondays 😀

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    1. Sorry you had to grow up without a dad, Nel. I hate to hear it. I do feel the same. Even if I could find him, it wouldn’t work and I know I must let it go.

      Thanks for sharing your story with us. ♡ I really love this meme too.

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  5. I have not heard of this song before now but I now love it. I am sorry to learn of how alcohol led to the loss of your dad. But I am glad that you have the strength and courage to talk about. Your story reminds me of a family friend who lost his marriage as a result of alcohol addiction.
    Thank you for sharing your story.
    Thanks for also stopping by my blog and reading and liking my post.

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