Feeling Sad and Angry…

Last week wasn’t great. There were numerous upsetting things that happened, but by Saturday night, when the third came along, I was at my wit’s end.


A few months ago, I visited my dentist to have a procedure done. It was just a simple filling that turned into a nightmare. After the procedure, I went home and had the worst tooth pain I’ve ever had in my entire life. For three weeks I alternated Tylenol and Motrin to discard the pain, and tried many other natural remedies to alleviate it. I’ve had a few fillings in my life and never had pain afterward, but when I called into the office to let them know, they kept telling me that it was normal and my tooth just needed to adjust. Adjust? I’d never heard that before, but this is what I was told and so I let the pain go on for three weeks while I took medicine that was making me sick. Motrin raises my blood pressure and I’m not even supposed to take it, but Tylenol just wasn’t taking the pain away. I just don’t have time for pain. It affects my entire family when I’m not well.

So, just after three and half weeks, I called and they told me to go ahead and come in. I got there, he looked at me in a mystified way and said he would do an x-ray. Of course, the x-ray showed nothing. He didn’t understand what was happening but told me that the filling looked fine and didn’t seem to be the issue. I disagreed because I knew the pain I was enduring was coming from nothing else but this tooth that he had worked on. I never have tooth pain. Why would I have it now?

He finally tells me that he can go in and take out the root of the tooth to see if the nerve is the issue. I agreed because silly me didn’t realize this requires a crown afterward. He takes out the nerve and wow, was he surprised. He held it out in front of me so that I could see just how inflamed this thing was. He finally understood what I was talking about and mentioned that it must have been the filling. He told me that I have to come back to have the crown put on, but that they have to approve it with my insurance first. So, now I realize that I have to pay for his screw up. This procedure is expensive and near $1000. Insurance covers some, but we are responsible for the rest. At that point, I let it go and scheduled myself in. I went in last Wednesday and had the first part of the procedure done.

As I sat there in the chair and underwent the procedure, he was pulling on my jaw so hard it was causing pain. They had to wedge my mouth open and I literally wanted to punch him. At this point, I knew that I didn’t want to come back to this dentist ever again. He’s too rough and has a very poor bedside manner. My kids love the hygienists, but the doctor is just rough and not very kind.

I left the dentist to run errands and headed back home. Just to get home is near about an hour drive and by now the numbing medicine was wearing off and I realized my tongue was hurting. I looked in the mirror to see that the side of my mouth was red and sore and the whole side of my tongue was bleeding and scraped up. Here I was in pain again and I began to ask myself why I ever went back to this dentist in the first place. I have to go back in a few weeks to have the final crown put on and I’m already dreading it.


Heading home from the dentist on Wednesday, I was behind this semi truck, at least 150-200 feet or so behind it going about 60mph. Of course, there were plenty of cars behind me wanting to pass because the speed limit is 60mph and people always want to go faster on the highway. This truck all of sudden starts spewing out these huge asphalt-like rocks out of the bottom of the truck and they are literally bouncing everywhere all over the road and even into the oncoming lane. We’re going pretty fast, so it doesn’t take long for all of these stones to hit the front of my car and also bounce right up the front of my Caravan. One of the huge stones crashed into my windshield and shattered it about a foot in size. I was shocked and slowing my car down just seemed to make it worse. As I fell back even further, basically every time this semi hit a bump, he was dropping these large rocks out everywhere. I watched them fly into the oncoming lane and they were even banging up underneath my car.

Now, you couldn’t tell what he was carrying in the semi-trailer and when we finally got into the next town, I realized there wasn’t a single sign on the back of the semi or even the sides to caution drivers of falling rock. I took pictures of the back of the truck and license plate, and when we turned at the light to proceed to the next road, I took pictures of the side of the truck and got the number of the company. Surprisingly, it’s an excavating company in my hometown.

I was instantly angry. I knew it was going to be expensive to replace my windshield. This isn’t a little chip on the window, it’s a huge shattered area bigger than a foot, and as I drove it was getting worse. My insurance company already informed me that if it’s over the size of a dollar bill, they won’t cover it, even though we have glass protection, but that wasn’t the worst of it.

I called the trucking company. I wanted to give these people a piece of my mind. Doesn’t it seem like they should have caution signs on their trucks? I see these signs all the time on rock trucks–huge bright yellow signs that can be seen well from a distance. So, after no answer, I left a message. I already knew they weren’t going to be responsible for my window because I had no way to prove it, but I wanted to do something to stop these people from damaging someone else’s vehicle. I just kept thinking: what if I was an elderly person or a motorcycle driving down the road? It could’ve caused a horrific accident!

I began doing research on this situation and learned that once a rock falls on the road from a truck, it’s considered road particle, and it’s not the truck’s responsibility any longer. That includes asphalt like pieces that bounce all over the street and cause accidents such as these. I also learned that without a video, I couldn’t prove anything and I’d be wasting my time and money in small claims court. You have to be able to prove that there was flying rock from the top of the heap. There wasn’t a heap of rock at all, just a faulty gate that wasn’t containing the rock pieces properly.

Today is Monday and I still haven’t heard back from them. I’m probably never going to hear from them either, even though the message I left was just a simple name, number, and a request to speak to the owner. Truly, I want to find out if it’s a law to have caution signs on your semi when you’re carrying dangerous material. After all, if you just have a piece of wood hanging out of your truck, you have to put a flag on it because it’s considered dangerous and if you don’t you’ll get pulled over. I’d be happy if they’d just put signs on their trucks so that this can’t happen to anyone else. Everyone I’ve talked to about it tells me that I’m wasting my time and that the company won’t care. They’re probably right. This company doesn’t have a brick and mortar business and it’s just run out of a home. It’s possibly a one-man operation.


On Saturday, we had a neutering company near our hometown that neuters and spays cats for a $50 fee. We’ve used this company before and those that follow my posts know that we just had 13 kittens born last April. We were able to home the majority but ended up keeping 4 of them. Not long after they were born, we learned that a distant neighbor had an unwanted kitten and we adopted her too. She was the same age as our other kittens and we took her in. My four-year-old named her Toby.

I live in the second to the poorest county in my state and there are literally cats everywhere out here in the country because people can’t afford to get them fixed and they keep reproducing. It’s not uncommon for people to just drop cats off on your property either. I went ahead and scheduled to have our five kittens fixed, which included Toby (our adopted kitten), but because one was sick with some sort of respiratory infection (Ash), I took in four. When I got there, I stood in line for over an hour for registration with all of my kids and the entire time I had a bad feeling, but I put it in the back of my head.

It was finally our turn to register and the doctor asked if we had any other cats that needed to be fixed. We ended up going back home to get two of our other cats, which included Ash, the sick one. She didn’t think it was an issue, but the truth is, I had a premonition that morning and almost canceled the whole thing. I put it in the back of my head again and brought the other two cats in. By the time everyone was registered and in the building, the cost for us was about $300. We left and went home, which is only about 10 minutes away. I went about my day, but kept my phone close which I rarely do on the weekends.

Around 2pm, I just happened to look up at the clock and my phone rang, It was the doctor stating that one of our cats “crashed” and that they were in the process of resuscitating it. That was all she said. My heart fell into my stomach and I put the phone down. I began wondering what cat it was. It wouldn’t make a difference because we love them all, but I just wanted to know. I waited by the phone for about 20 more minutes. She called me back and said,

“We lost one of your cats. After we gave her the medication, her heart just stopped and we couldn’t get her back. This is really rare and I’ll talk to you when you come in.”

I asked her which cat it was before she hung up the phone. She started going through the papers and then finally told me it was Toby. I couldn’t believe it.

All sorts of things started going through my mind. First, I wondered if they gave her too much medication because that’s exactly what happens when you get too much anesthetic. I then thought that maybe she just had a bad reaction to it. Then, I remembered back in 2004 when we had taken three of our 4H cats in to get fixed and at pickup, they had a cat sprawled out on some towels that had just “crashed” as the doctor calls it. They were working on getting it back when we were all standing around picking up our cats to take home. I think they got the cat back, but I don’t remember. I began to wonder, just how rare is this?

We waited for 6pm to roll around and went in to pick up the kittens. When we got there, it was gloomy, cool and starting to rain. A cold front was coming through and the tornado sirens were going off. The doctor gathered everyone around outside to give us the checkout instructions–roughly a hundred people or so. She asked where the lady was that had the kittens up for adoption and mentioned that they lost one of those cats today. Our cats weren’t up for adoption and there were other groups of kittens who were. At that moment, my kids looked at me and we became hopeful that it wasn’t Toby that had died. I know that sounds horrible–I wouldn’t want any cats to die–but I did want Toby to be alive; we all did. After her long talk about everything we were supposed to do for our cats that night, we all went into the buildings to get our cats. When we got to our three crates, Toby wasn’t in there. Finally, after waiting around to talk to someone, we spoke to the doctor and all she said was that she received the same dose as all the other kittens, but for some reason, it stopped her heart. She said that what happened is very rare and they did what they could do to save her. Out of the eighty to a hundred cats that were there that day, it was our Toby that died. I felt like the doctor was less than sympathetic and they didn’t even offer me back the money that I paid for her to be neutered. I basically paid $50 for a procedure that never happened and now our favorite kitten was gone. I asked her if we could have Toby’s body and she pointed over to the wall where she lay, on the window ledge, rolled up in a towel. My 9-year-old offered to carry Toby to our car and I could see the tears in his eyes as we walked away from this horrific situation. Even though she was gone, I could feel that we all just wanted to get her back home.

We left to head home with our sleeping kittens and Toby’s body. I was fighting back the tears. It was just about dark by then and very windy with rain. I called my oldest son to let him know to be prepared for our arrival and to grab a shovel. We were going to have to bury Toby in the dark and we had to get all the other cats inside and on heating pads so they could begin the healing process. After getting everyone settled in, we took Toby out and my son began digging a hole out in our woods. The entire time, as I stood there holding the flashlight, all I could think about was how I just wanted to go back to bed and wake up to start this day all over again. I wished that I would’ve followed my premonition that morning. Toby was the first cat I grabbed as she always sits right by the front door and was the most loveable cat we had. She was our favorite out of all the cats and the kids could hold her all day long and never tire of her. She was super friendly with all of our other cats and they would run, play, and chase butterflies all day long together.

I went in to call my husband to let him know how it went at pickup and he didn’t understand why they didn’t offer us back our money either. Of course, he was upset too as Toby was his favorite and he had just spent time with her out in the barn that morning before work. Getting our money back really wasn’t the issue and it wasn’t going to bring Toby back, but the procedure wasn’t performed and I still wonder if it’s right that they didn’t offer. Toby was just another cat to them, but she wasn’t to us.

Saturday night I was lying in my room in the dark and my oldest son was walking by. I hadn’t even talked to him about the windshield on the Caravan yet. I talked to him about all three things that were upsetting me and how I just couldn’t get over the week in general. He stood there looking at me and said,

“Mom, sometimes these things happen and you just have to keep pushing on. You can’t let it get to you.”

He’s so right. He was teaching me the same lesson I’ve been teaching him since he was just a little child. “Hold your head up high, beef up, and stay strong. Don’t let the world drag you down.” How many times I’ve said that to my kids and at this point, I can’t even take my own advice. All I could do was cry and think about Toby being gone and the possibility that I put her into the wrong hands. Not only that, I felt entitled to something in each of these situations.

So, I guess this is what it boils down to: me feeling entitled. That’s probably not the best word to use, but it’s how I feel; entitled to get my tooth fixed for free because it was the dentist’s error; entitled to have my windshield paid for by the half-ass trucking company that can’t bother to put signs on their trucks to keep others safe from their falling debris; and entitled to get my money back for my cat that I’m never going to see again.

Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Probably. There are people in this world with real problems and I should be looking at this in a more positive way I suppose, but I’ve never been able to look at someone else’s negatives to make a positive for myself, ever. I realize life isn’t always fair, but I’m angry and I’m sad. Maybe it’s just a phase I’m going through, but I just don’t feel like I can handle things like I used to. I don’t know if it’s getting older or what. I just don’t feel as resilient as I used to be when life throws curveballs such as these…


88 thoughts on “Feeling Sad and Angry…

  1. Nel

    I’m so glad you decided to publish this Mischenko. I already laid out my advice to you but I just want to reiterate that you are an amazing mother and an all around great person. Your son’s words to you are evidence of that! I hope your week gets much better from this point forward. 🙂

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    1. Thanks, Nel. You always have the best advice and like I said, I’m so appreciative that we met. I’m so lucky to know you.

      So far the week is going good. I hope everything settles down for you as well and have you in my thoughts. <3. Thanks for being such a good friend. 🙂

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  2. what an awful week! so many bad things at once are hard to cope with, and then losing your cat. that experience with the dentist would certainly put me off going back to that guy, or any other dentist (I had a 20 year phobia). have a virtual hug

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  3. So very sorry that these things have happened to you…. They do say things come in threes, so hopefully your life is now on the ‘upswing’.
    We are all entitled to feel what we feel. So never feel bad about expressing your opinions. It is healthy and therapeutic to ‘vent’.

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    1. Thank you so much for saying that. I do feel so much better writing it all out and it seemed to help release a little bit of the emotion.

      My mother said the exact same thing, that things happen in threes. My grandfather used to say the same thing and it always seemed to be true. I hope that’s it then. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me. ❤

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  4. Omg my heart is just breaking into a million pieces for you!! I’m so so sorry 😢 the dentist stuff, then the car and the poor cat. I couldn’t imagine how difficult it must have been to explain that to your kids. The vet sounds so awful and distant. There’s no way in hell
    I would pay them the 50$ if that happened. They didn’t do the procedure and you lost your poor cat. I’d flat out refuse to pay
    Sending you my hugs and hope things get better!

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    1. I paid up front and wonder if that was a bad choice. I wanted to tell her, but honestly, I thought for sure they would’ve just given me back the money. I felt weird about asking and I don’t know why. Same with the dentist. Why didn’t I demand that I shouldn’t have to pay?

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts on it. I appreciate it. ❤

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      1. Oh sorry I didn’t realize you paid up front. I missed that. The right thing to do would be to give you your money back. You wouldn’t be in the wrong to ask for it back either!
        My husband had a similar experience with the dentist. Three visits and still in agony. After nothing worked we were stuck with an 800$ root canal bill that wasn’t covered. 😐

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        1. I noticed that a lot of people paid afterward, but the paper said that it was due up front. I wish I would’ve waited, but it wouldn’t change the outcome for Toby anyhow.

          Sorry your husband had to have a painful experience too. It sounds like it’s actually quite common for people to have issues with dentists. It seems wrong to have to pay when it’s their fault though.

          Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Shanah. 💕

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  5. Noriko

    Oh, my gosh. I cannot tell you how sorry I am… reading this post literally broke my heart and I just cannot understand why these things had happened to someone as nice as you… that’s totally unfair…
    I am so sorry for everything that has happened to you, especially for your precious Toby… I’m so sad and my heart goes out to you.
    You are definitely entitled to feel that way. You haven’t done anything wrong.
    One thing I can honestly say is that your son is wonderful and I can tell you have been an awesome mom. I have never met as smart and sincere a kid as he is, no joke.
    I feel for you, Mischenko and I hope everything works out well for you..

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  6. I’m so sorry for everything that’s happened to you. The first thing is bad enough (dentists messing up is always awful) and then the car thing is irritating, and then the last one really hurt my heart. Poor Toby. That was just sad…(Are you okay with virtual hugs?)
    And I don’t think it’s bad to expect people to do their jobs right, or at the very least, make it up when they screw up. There wasn’t anything you could do.

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  7. N. N. Light

    Oh you poor thing! My September was like that, one thing after another, and I was feeling like Job. You’ve just had the worst week possible. I’m so sorry about your dentist nightmare (I hate ’em). I’m sorry about your windshield and I’m so sorry about losing Toby. To them, it’s just another cat but to you and your family, Toby’s a part of your family. I agree with your husband and the others here, you shouldn’t have to pay since it was their fault. Sheesh! Sending positive thoughts and Light your way! *hugs* MRS N

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  8. Oh I’m so sorry about all of this! I was tearing up reading about Toby- I’m so sorry, you guys must be heartbroken. I think it’s perfectly fine to feel the way you do, it’s so hard to bare so much pain and anger and heartache. But your son is so wise! We feel the hurt and we have to keep pushing on, though that doesn’t make the hurt any less valid. I hope things start getting better and that the pains begin to ease!!

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  9. Oh, I was nearly in tears reading this post. Each issue became successively harder until it culminated in the absolute worst. I know nothing will make it better now, but my heart is with you and I’m sending virtual hugs.

    You are absolutely right to feel this way. Feeling the anger and pain is natural, helps you heal. Just don’t let it sit too long or it can do worse damage. Ignore the money thing… it’s ridiculous and painful and annoying, but maybe losing a few hundred to a thousand now will bring a windfall of cash inflow in 2018. We can all hope for you!

    xoxoxo hugs

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    1. Thank you so much, James. I’m feeling much better today and won’t let it linger. It surely did help letting some of it out.

      It’s definitely not the money that really bugs me. It’s more about the principle. A windfall of cash would be nice though. ❤ Lots of hugs.

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  10. thebookprophet

    I’m so sorry about Toby. They really should have done something to be more sympathetic… anyway, it’s a good thing you have your family to keep you strong and going. No matter how crap the world and people are around you, your family is something you can always rely on to be there for you ❤

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  11. starjustin

    All so sad. Toby was my baby Bubba. I can barely write this post just thinking about him. He is in kitty heaven now.
    I have had to wear a partial for years now, thanks to a ‘bad’ dentist also. I haven’t been back to a dentist since because it was such a painful experience, much like yours. I have a major phobia now. 😢
    As far as the truck goes, I would call that owner every day but I know that would just be major unnecessary stress added to your life.
    My grandson is wise for his age and extremely compassionate and supportive at times like this.
    I agree with the thought that many people have gotten much more uncaring and greedy when it comes to money. All so very, very sad.

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    1. Sorry you had a dentist issue too. It seems to be more common than I thought.

      I did try calling again and no answer. I will try a few more times, but I don’t want to dwell on it. I just wish I could get them to put some signs on their trucks. That would be great and I would feel like something is getting accomplished.

      Thanks so much for your thoughts. ❤


  12. I’m so sorry to hear that you had such a terrible week. Why do bad things always happen to us at the same time? The worse thing is that these horrible things happened and it was completely not your fault. I don’t blame you for being angry and upset. Some kind wishes won’t help, but I’m sending them anyway. Hope your dental pain eases up and RIP beautiful Toby, another star in the sky xx

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    1. I was thinking the same thing. My mom and another blogger mentioned that things happen in threes. I’ve heard that before too. I truly appreciate your kind wishes and thanks so much. Toby is definitely another star in the sky. ❤


  13. Oh Mischenko, what an upsetting week. I’d have to say I agree with you on all three accounts….it would’ve been wonderful if they gave you your money back or some sort of compensation. It’s frustrating it all came at the same time, but the positive thing to it all happening at once is that it isn’t all spread out over week’s or month’s worth of time. I know that probably doesn’t help much because I know the feeling of everything all at once and it’s so difficult. So sorry to hear about Toby. 😦 Prayers that they fix your tooth and pain! ❤

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  14. Oh, what a horrible terrible very bad week. I am so sorry. I would report that dentist, there is no excuse for such ineptitude. Years ago I left a pediatrician whose behavior was bad, and the next year he had charges brought up against him and lost his practice. I was sorry I had not reported him instead of just leaving.
    How sad for Toby, you could not have known it would turn out this way. Hugs on the loss of your dear kitty.
    Conprehensive insurance will completely cover the cost of the windshield. But the claim will be on your record and if a few more come in they will raise your rates. Happened to us. Then we changed insurance companies and got a much lower rate.
    Its ok to feel that life has handed you too much, and it is ok to expect people and companies to do what is right. We can’t change others, or life, but we can work to hold people to their obligations and protect others from being badly used, too.
    I’ve been through months of very bad weeks. It sucks.
    Your have been given very sage advice from your lil guy. What a treasure!

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    1. Yeah, he just isn’t a good dentist and I wonder if he even realizes how rough he is. I’m glad that the pediatrician was brought up on charges. My goodness!

      The insurance issue is that it will raise our rates and of course there’s the deductible. It looks like we are going to have a company actually come out to our house to look at it. I’m thankful that the window didn’t completely shatter and it’s only one large spot. I think windshields are shatterproof and I’m thankful for that.

      I did expect a different outcome in each of these instances. I probably should’ve spoken up about the money for Toby, but it’s trivial really. It won’t bring her back. Although, I’m to the point now where I think more people need to understand that this group that’s neutering large numbers of cats in one day might be a risk though. I read that anesthesia risks are much lower than 1% on animals and it appears that the rate is higher with companies such as the one we used. I don’t think it’s worth it. I’ll never use this company again and I did learn a lesson there.

      Thanks so much, Nancy. You’re a great friend to have. ❤


  15. I’m so sorry, M! They should have refunded your money for the surgery without you even asking. I also don’t think they were kind enough about the whole thing. Some people think animals are animals and will never get that they are part of our families. I love seeing your picture of Toby. My Coley has similar coloring. I can tell she was a super sweet girl.

    I’m also sorry about your tooth and windshield! I have had similar tooth problems, and the dentist has never offered to pay…and I continue going there. I had a crown come off pretty quickly after they put it on, and I thought they would fix it no charge. Nope. I got a bill in the mail. We have an excavation company close by and I hate those dump trucks with a passion. I have a tiny crack in my windshield now from one. It has not gotten worse, and it’s out of my line of sight, so I have left it alone, but still. When I see those trucks anywhere nearby, I slow down. This rock happened to hit me with the truck going in the opposite direction, so there was literally nothing I could do. Lastly, I also know what you mean about not feeling as resilient. There is actually research that backs it up too. Kids are full of resilience, thank goodness, but as we age, the protective factors we have lessen over time. Life gets harder for many reasons. You may feel more strife on the inside, but what your son said makes it obvious that you hold it together for your kids and are an amazing mom. Hugs and love, my sweet friend.

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    1. I feel the same way, Jennifer. I think I just expected it to go that way when I went to pick them up. I don’t know that it would’ve made me feel much better, but it just seems like the right thing to do. It’s what I would’ve done if I were in her position.

      I can’t believe how common this dentist problem is. I’m so sorry you’ve had problems too. It seems like we would be more resilient with age due to all of our experiences in life, but I guess that’s not the case.

      Thanks for your uplifting words. You truly are a kind and sweet person and I’m so lucky to have you in my life. ❤ Hugs


  16. I’m so sorry that you had to go through all this! My heart is breaking and I realize that sometimes life just sucks, but yeah…..Don’t ever feel bad about feeling bad, and don’t compare. You are allowed to feel completely bereft and angry and sad, and whatever other emotions come your way. You matter and your feelings matter! sending you love and good thoughts!!!!!

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  17. Oh my, Misch. I’m so sorry for all that you have gone through in the last while. That is A LOT for anyone to handle and you have every right to feel the way you do.
    I was holding my face as you explained your dental issues. OMG…please don’t go back to that dentist. I have had dentists tell me that sometimes they need to adjust or “setttle” after a procedure but they always tell me to come in if I’m in that much pain. They should not have made you wait and should have realized that it might be the nerve acting up. I’m not sure how the charges work but they should have told you to come right in.

    I’m so sorry about Toby. You sound like such a responsible pet owner and I feel terrible that this happened. I’m glad you were able to take Toby back home to bury her but I’m still so sad for you all.

    I really hope the trucking company calls you back. That really is dangerous. As you said if it had been an elderly or really inexperienced driver they may have reacted and had an accident. I’m not sure what the procedure is but i hope something can be done.

    You are a stronger person and your kids are lucky to have you (and you them). It sounds like your family had a lot to get through this week but you did it …together. Big hugs to you and your family and I hope things start to go better very soon!


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    1. Deanna, thanks so much for all your kind comments. It’s nice to know that others don’t think I’m crazy for feeling the way I do.

      So far, the company still hasn’t called me. I’m going to try again, but I’m trying hard not to stress about it. I don’t know that they’ll care, but they should. It’s just wrong and I’m hoping this never happens to anyone else. The glass company told us that they get someone every day in their office complaining about this same thing, but usually, the windows aren’t as bad as mine.

      Thanks again, Deanna. You’re such a sweet friend. ❤

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  18. Oh my…..what an overwhelming week!! Right or wrong, I think that if we are honest, we probably all would go through the ‘I feel entitled” feelings in each situation. It’s the principle of the other parties living up to the standards which they should be governed by. But, through your teachings….I am glad that your son was able to remind you of the very need to find the positives in all things, and not let the world around us drag us down. Believe me, I know that is so much easier said than done. I hope that things improve for you over the coming days!! ❤

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  19. Oh my dear friend. I’m so sorry for everything. I didn’t realize you were going through such a difficult time and I am so so sorry about little Toby. Your son is right that we do have to keep going, but don’t forget that everybody is allowed to feel weak and sad and tired and angry and you are no exception. I think any one of those events would be upsetting, and having them happen all at once is just too much to bear. You were allowed to feel the way you feel and I think you’re entitled to feel the way you feel as well. I think there’s nothing wrong with hoping and expecting people to do the right thing. I don’t think it happens very often. If it helps, you have lots of fellow bloggers and friends who are sending you love and positive thoughts. Feel free to message me privately if you feel like talking. Hang in there and sending you a big hug from New Mexico.

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    1. Vanessa, you are such a sweetheart. Thank you for sharing all of that with me because it does make me feel so much better knowing that others understand and that I’m not going nuts. ❤ There is so much support here and everyone has been so kind. You are such a wonderful and caring friend to have. Thank you. ❤

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  20. That is an impressively shitty week, you have the right to be upset & angry.. Very, very sorry to hear about your loss.. That’s one gorgeous cat 😦 I almost teared up reading about it, I just love animals so much.

    One of our bunnies almost died at the vet a couple of months ago.. They had to resuscitate her and told us after that she has a 10% chance of survival. Another vet wanted to put her down before. She’s still hopping around happily nowadays, her infection is gone and the only thing left is a permanent head tilt.

    I hope life is getting better for you from now on! You seem to have a great family for support from what I’ve read so far 🙂 Sending you virtual hugs from overseas 😉

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    1. Oh my goodness. Was your bunny having a procedure done? I’m so glad that they were able to bring her back.

      This week is much better. It felt great to express my emotions a bit and do a little bit of a rant. I appreciate your thoughts so much. Thank you. ❤


  21. i don’t even know what to say! i am so sorry, that all this happened to you! the tooth thing is horrible. i am so scared of all tooth things related. tooth pain is the worst! and for three weeks? OMG!
    and i am so sorry about toby. i have two cats on my own and it’s the worst thing ever, when something like this happens. 😦
    sometimes life isn’t fair. sometimes all is good and then everything happens all at once! i hope, that you and your family feel better soon!! ❤ sending you many virtual hugs!

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  22. I am SO sorry for your loss! (I definitely think that the vet should have given your money back.) You shouldn’t feel bad about feeling bad. Of course there are people in the world with worse things happening but that doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to have feelings and hit your limit of bullshit. Hope things look up soon. ❤

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  23. I am so very sorry for the troubles that happened but most especially for Toby. Your story hit hard with me for a variety of reasons. I won’t get into the family related ones but I adopted two barn kittens in May and we lost JB due to a genetic condition only to find out soon after that her brother Hezekiah has similar problems. I paid a lot of money already for expensive tests for one vet to tell us one thing (nothing really) and paid even more money to another vet to run the same tests and find completely different (but more valid) results. I know it’s a first world problem and money is not the issue overall but I feel like I should get my money back for the first vet’s mistakes and all the wasted time. Plus I still have a very sick (but adorable kitten).The first mate and I are still trying to determine a treatment plan. We have two other kittens (Obadiah and Ezekiel) and we love them but for some reason those little barn kittens are extra special. I also want to strangle the owners of the barn who I just found out have another litter of sick kittens they are trying to get rid of. They need to spay and neuter their cats! I didn’t mean to rant at you. This was meant to be more supportive. I am sad and angry for you! I will stop here. Stay strong and survive. I am just trying to find little happy things to focus on.
    x The Captain

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    1. I’m so sorry to hear of this. It just isn’t right. You are right, the money isn’t really the issue, but it becomes the issue when things aren’t done properly. You definitely should get your money back. I’m still questioning why I didn’t ask for my money back. When I questioned the invoice because of what was written on it and mentioned that our cat died, the lady looked at me like I was nuts. It was very strange. If I were her, I would’ve been apologetic. Gosh, I would’ve felt bad, especially with all of my kids standing there. It’s not how I would’ve handled it. I’m not perfect, but come on.

      I’m so sorry that you are going through this with your precious kitty. BTW, I just love all their names. I hope that everything turns out okay and you can find a treatment. Those people most definitely need to fix the cats. I wonder if they can’t afford it? That always makes it difficult. That’s the issue in my county. No one has the money.

      Thanks so much for sharing your story with me. I hope that we can chat again. ❤ Good luck with everything and thanks so much for your support.


  24. I am so sorry, Mischenko. For Toby and most of all for Toby, for all your frustration, anger, PAIN and injustice of the world. The rocks thrown at you were harder than the one that smashed your windshield. The wounds they caused less visible than damaged tooth and scraped up tongue, so therefore more painful. Three times in a week you hit the bottom and were on your knees. But you will rise again. You ARE standing again! Embrace your pain as you embraced the loving memory of Toby and face the life ahead of you. Look it in the eyes and dare it, telling it you won’t buckle under its gaze. You will prevail and win, because you have more than one cause to fight and carry on. My sympathies and support to you, M. Be strong!

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  25. wanderingformoney

    This is heartbreaking. When it rains it pours, so sorry you had to go through this. Everyone’s pain is real – don’t feel bad for hurting during a very bad series of events. We all want and should push through but are still all human at the end of the day and this was so sad. Very sorry

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