Rant: It’s MY Review and There Aren’t Laws!

A few months ago I received a message from a very angry woman who wasn’t pleased with my opinions on a book I’d recently reviewed. She was upset with me for multiple reasons, but mainly because I called the characters flat and spoiled (she misread the spoiler and thought that I was calling the characters spoiled). She also said that I should’ve put some thought into my review before I wrote it and that I was completely wrong.

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I’m not going to lie–it upset me a little–and I messaged her back to kindly tell her that these were my thoughts and my HONEST opinions on the book. I also explained that I’m entitled to my own thoughts and opinions just as she is to hers. I pointed out that she read my spoiler title incorrectly and that I simply called the characters flat and the story boring.

It really got me thinking and now I’ve seen some people talk about how book reviews should be written. This is just adding more stress because now we are talking about how a review should be written and not just our personal tastes. This bothers me.

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Why does a book review have to written in a specific format or any special way? Are we all supposed to be professional reviewers in order to write book reviews? Everyone has their own style and personally I think this is something that sets us all apart. Wouldn’t blogging be very boring if all of our reviews looked similar? What if we all had the same thoughts? Of course that’s not how it works and if it was, life would be very boring.

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Also, this isn’t my job. I’m not making any money doing this (in fact, I’m losing money) and wonder how anyone can say something negative about the way someone rates a book or writes the review. I’m not going to study up on how to write a professional book review just so I can write a review that meets the standards of someone else, especially authors who could care less about promoting my blog or my book reviews anyway. With that said, I do think bettering yourself is a good thing, but not everyone has time to write polished reviews and sometimes I just want to talk about a book I liked without the stress of perfecting a review and that includes rating a book however I see fit–by my personal standards and not someone else’s. Since when are there laws on how people must write reviews?

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When I think about the time it takes to read a book, on top of everything there is to do on Goodreads, writing posts, other WordPress blogs, social media, and comments, it’s difficult to find time to sit down and write a review, especially when you have other obligations like family. Not only that, I struggle to write reviews and sometimes I just sit and wrack my brain trying to get started. Writing doesn’t come easy for everyone. I’ve even avoided writing reviews all-together because of this. Maybe it’s easy for some, but not me, and I don’t think anyone should have to conform to any standards or rules.

What do you think? Thanks for reading. 🙂

105 thoughts on “Rant: It’s MY Review and There Aren’t Laws!

  1. I love your reviews and you keep on doing what you’re doing! This woman had alot of nerve criticizing you! This isn’t our job, we are just reviewing something we read and we either liked it or we didn’t! It’s no one’s business how we write our reviews! I’m sorry you had to go through this and it’s so not fair! Stay strong and keep doing your own thing!👍❤😀

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    1. Thank you, Susan. I feel the same way! Like I can totally take someone coming on and bringing something to my attention, like if they think I missed something, but to bash is just wrong. We all have our own opinions and write in our own ways. I personally love that. ❤ You are always supportive.Thank you.

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      1. When you write a book, and put it out into the world, not everyone will like it. It’s really unfortunate that an author felt like she could control your opinions on her book. I’m sorry this happened but I’m glad you stood your ground! Your honest reviews are great, and really helpful. 😁

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  2. As you said, if we all wrote the same review – not to mention thought the same, it would be dreadfully boring, and we would have become robots. A book is not a uniform thing affecting every reader in the same way. A book and a reader connect with each other in unique ways. Reviewing a book is very different from reviewing a thing (say a can opener) which will work, or not work – and even there, something will have variable reviews – maybe the cans I open are not those which this particular can opener works with, every time – and maybe the cans YOU open are ones the can opener works with. We might both be right!

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    1. Nel

      Can opener analogy is freaking brilliant. I love this and you are so right! Two people can be right about the same thing even if they’re opinions are conflicting towards one another.

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    2. It would totally be boring! I couldn’t agree more. I have friends who hate a book and then I end up liking it. I would never end our friendship over it LOL. We all do our assessments and express our own feelings when it comes to all forms of entertainment. I love your analogy too because that makes complete sense to me! 😀 Thank you!

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  3. Gosh… this is so good a topic for a discussion. You’re not alone on finding it hard to write a review. I only started reviewing books last year and I never thought I’d ever find writing reviews as hard as writing other articles such as essays.
    And if there are certain rules on review, ahm how is it a review? if we’re gonna follow some kind of steps on reviewing, we might just stop at rating the book to save us so much time..I mean, our views would all be almost similar and there will only be three possible judgements: GOOD, BAD, and BETWEEN them.right?

    And wow, really someone messaged you just to say that? I usually got messages almost like the one you got only they’re about how much i can read in a day,,, I’vea already done a couple of 24-hour readathon thus year and in each I read 4 books and written the reviews for each books along with blog post updates every certain hour. And every time a readathon ends, I get messages, questioning me.

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    1. Thanks, Lili. I’ve heard other bloggers say the same thing that writing reviews is a struggle. I don’t like to hear it, but it makes me feel better knowing that I’m not alone. I think you are right that we might as well not review at all then because what would be the point? I just read a book and pretty much want to say all the same things everyone else is saying already. Following a format would ruin reviews in my opinion.

      Yes, the person actually commented on my blog post. I just haven’t shared the link because I don’t want to stir trouble with the person who isn’t a blogger, but she is a reader. Reading the spoiler warning wrong could’ve sent her off on the tangent and I could totally forgive someone for that, after all, we are humans and make mistakes, but she said a lot more than that. I have heard other bloggers say that their reviews have been attacked, but this was the first time I’d ever received a total bashing lol.

      I have to admit, I find these 24-hour readathons interesting! I couldn’t do it! Writing 4 reviews up that quick astounds me. I admire your dedication! At first I wondered if you slept at all in the 24-hours. I’d be dead. LOL 😉 Thanks for your comments, Lili. ❤

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      1. Awww, sorry again this happened to you… I haven’t been attacked because of my reviews but I know some reviewers who had. 😦 😦
        And as for the 24-Hour Readathon, we do it every last weekend of each month. I don’t really sleep much, thanks to my insomnia so that’s why I can read so much. 🙂 🙂

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  4. I had a similar incident with a book I had received through Netgalley. Now, let me know if I’m wrong, but books are supposed to reviewed HONESTLY. We’re not getting paid and you’re correct, it takes time, energy and thought. So, wrote my opinion and it wasn’t harsh, I said it the story was predictable and the author replied to my review as if had attacked her personally. We all don’t like lasagna, some love it. There has to be room for individuality for all of us. I’m so sorry that you were bullied. I like your reviews and I respect your opinions.

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    1. I’ve always thought books are supposed to be reviewed honestly which is what burns me so bad with Amazon blacklisting me. In a way, the blocked me because they don’t think my reviews are legit for whatever reason. I read for Netgalley too and to me that’s a service we are giving. We are reading a book in advance and giving our honest opinions on it. I think when an author responds like that it makes me never want to read another book by them again….period. That’s no different than bullying and I’ve seen an author even threaten black magic on a reader last year. Not even joking! I’m sorry you had to deal with being attacked. We are all individuals and that’s what makes life great. I’ve always believed that. Thanks so much for your kind comments about my reviews too. That means a lot. Take care… ❤

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  5. Nel

    PREACH! I used to be a rating person only because I didn’t have time to write reviews or I just didn’t feel inclined to. I remember one woman giving me so much grief over a review of Outlander because she was part of Diana Galbaldon’s fan club and just couldn’t possibly believe that I didn’t 100% love the book and on top of that preferred the TV show over the books. It’s astonishing that someone will bash your opinion. I feel like you’re in the wrong job field if you don’t go in knowing that your work will be reviewed very differently from each person that encounters it. If anything you’d think it’d be a learning experience not a moment of anger and upset because you’re not on the same loving bandwagon as everyone else.

    Anyway, great, great, great post! I truly think this is important and you make such excellent points especially the bit about it costing time when you’re doing it for free. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

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    1. Yeah, wow! I mean I’ve heard at least two others say that they like the TV show more than the books for Outlander. I mean to each his own! Those are really long books too and some people might not even have the patience to read them through. They’d rather just watch the show. I mean, who doesn’t want to watch Sam Heughan anyway LOL. ❤ We all have our preferences and that's the way it should be. I couldn't agree more on authors getting upset either. I mean you're going to have that! James Patterson and Stephen King are like two of the highest paid authors in the world with millions of ratings and they still get negative reviews. Not everyone loves horror and not everyone loves crime. You can't please everyone. That's just life.

      Thanks for your thoughts on this, Nel. I appreciate your support as well. ❤

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  6. I think people should be able to write reviews how they want. Same for blogging. Everyone has their own way and they should be able to write in that specific way.

    You mention bettering yourself is a good thing and I agree but surety bettering yourself in reviews means feeling like you can write them how you want and choose.

    Can’t please everyone and haters will hate. Sadly these haters and those who pick fault at others are often worse at reviewing than those they hate on.

    One thing that annoys me and its a bit off topic is this, authors all write differently, why can’t bloggers?🤔

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    1. I agree and I like your points. Haters are going to hate. I also ask myself the same thing. I mean in a way we are authors too, we just aren’t getting paid–at least I’m not. I’m sure some do, but everyone writes differently and to me this is just fine. I’ve loved some books that weren’t written so well. Give me a good story and I’m all in regardless of how well it’s written. Whereas someone else says the book stinks because it’s written horribly. Reviews are subjective and it’s perfectly fine. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, Drew. Awesome points! I appreciate it! 😀

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  7. I feel everyone is entitled to format their review to their particular taste. I read several reviews on a book and their all different. I feel this gives a fuller picture of the novel. Every reviewer sees something different and that’s refreshing. I try to write a review with a short synopsis, but the final paragraph is my thoughts, feelings and opinions on the book. I’m not a professional reviewer. I just want to share what I’ve read. I try not to stress over a book review, though there have been a few which have stumped me. Each review is my own, not borrowed from others. Please keep writing your reviews. I enjoy reading them and I appreciate your thoughts, feelings and opinions.

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    1. Exactly! One person might talk about something particular that they didn’t like about the book, but it’s something that you might overlook and doesn’t matter as much to you. Everyone has their own thoughts and our reviews are always subjective. I write my reviews sort of the same way you describe because it’s what feels comfortable to me. The synopsis is like the warm up lol.

      Thanks so much, Candace. I appreciate your thoughts. I’m glad that you like my reviews. ❤ It means a lot.

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  8. I am so annoyed that even happened to you. Your reviews are always thoughtful and well-written.
    I love that we all write in our own style and way. Sometimes even with one blogger the review style may change with the type of book being reviewed. We are entitled to like a book for x reasons and dislike It for x reasons.
    Maybe “spoiler” wasn’t the only word she misread…. 😉
    My rule of thumb is don’t be mean. Criticism does not have to be unkind. I’ve seen some real crappy reviews on Amazon that make me think the reviewer was just trying to get attention for themselves.

    Keep on reading and reviewing. Most of us are happy to read your well presented thoughts 🙂

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    1. Thanks, Nina. I appreciate that so much. It was on your blog where I learned about the bullet-style review and I thought that was so amazing. I love seeing how everyone writes their reviews. It makes it so interesting!

      I also agree. You can express your opinion without being a jerk. This lady was definitely being a jerk and she was giving me her opinions as if they were the only right ones, and the comment was one that expressed HER thoughts, but to me she didn’t need to do it the way she did. She wasn’t a troll, you could tell that she read the book, but she just wasn’t accepting to my opinions of the book at all. I’ve only reviewed one book that I really truly hated and I still said in my review that the book might be great for others. I mean, it’s true. We are all different. ❤ Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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        1. Oh, yeah I should’ve clarified that. She wasn’t the author, but she is a reader and not necessarily a troll looking for trouble, if you know what I mean. I’ve seen authors attack and that’s even worse. ❤

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  9. It never ceases to amaze me that people criticize opinions in reviews.

    A review is to let me know what you experienced – not what I should experience. It’s purpose is to give me a window, slightly bigger than the blurb, to see if it’s a book I want to read – it certainly isn’t written to validate my opinion.

    Life experiences have made me more tolerant of some things and less tolerant of others. If I think a character is whiny even if he wasn’t written that way, so what? Even if you thought the characters were spoiled, who’s to say you’re wrong?

    A wise person once said,

    “Stay strong and keep doing your own thing!” ~susandyer1962

    I second that 😀

    Victor

    P.S. You put as much time into your reviews as you see fit. Don’t let some anon on the web make you feel like you didn’t do enough. Your blog+Your time=Your rules.

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    1. I feel the same way. How can someone say that what you’ve said isn’t valid when it’s an opinion? I love that others agree with that and thanks for sharing your thoughts as well. Time to me is where it really hits hard because time is gold. Everyone should always be able to make their own choices. Your blog+Your time=Your rules…love that. Thanks!

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    1. Thanks! Yeah, I have no idea. I don’t believe that she’s a troll as she did read the book, but who knows. I mean this book got other negative reviews too. I think she targeted me because I have a blog and she could comment by logging in through Facebook. I honestly just don’t think anyone should tell someone how to write a review. I’ll never agree with that.

      I appreciate your comment. Have a great week and thanks again!

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  10. I agree with you completely. And I always love your reviews. You must ignore her. It’s hard but that’s the one bad apple in the bunch.

    I hope my recent posts about ways to review aren’t adding to your frustration. I’m hoping to come at it from the perspective of humor and offering ways to help people who want to review but feel they keep saying that same thing over and over again. Not ever telling someone they are wrong in their approach. (Unless they are being vicious and mean!) LOL

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    1. Thanks, James. I didn’t ignore her and responded to explain that the opinions were mine and she’s entitled to hers as well. I felt that this was the best way to handle it because in a way, I can understand what she’s saying, but she did it in a very rude way and it was uncalled for. To tell someone to put thought into their review is just crappy. To tell someone that their opinions are wrong also doesn’t make sense. Opinions are opinions and reviews are subjective. I don’t think it’s hard to point out when you don’t agree with something, but it can be done in a respectful way.

      I feel like if people want help writing reviews, then that’s great, but I can’t agree when people say that someone hasn’t written a review correctly. There isn’t a standard and for good reason. I also think everyone should be free to review and rate how they want without feeling guilty about it or having others questioning their content. I’ve seen many different review styles and appreciate that we have our own individual artistic expression when it comes to rating and reviewing all different forms of entertainment, including books! 🙂 It just seems silly to standardize any of it.

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      1. I meant ignore her now that you got your response in. Sorry, didn’t mean ignore her as a whole. I just didn’t want this to keep bothering you afterward. You’re too awesome to let one person make you upset any further.

        People definitely need to be able to provide feedback. All good points. Respect is key. You can dislike or hate something and explain why in a fair manner. What she did by telling you how to review is clearly wrong!

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  11. Omg she actually messaged you?! I think you should absolutely write an honest review. People have different opinions and like/dislike different things and there should be no comeback if the review is respectful and honest.

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  12. What I get from this is utter anger that someone felt they had the right to tell you how you should A. Feel about a book. and B. Write about it.

    Reading is personal, stick 100 people in a room with the same book they will each take something different from it. There is nothing wrong with disliking a book that 99 other people love. I stand by my conviction that Twilight is awful! 😂

    As for how you write reviews, there is no fixed rule. And even professionally (OK I haven’t done it pro for book reviews but I did for music reviews for several years) each publication has its own rules so there is no “standard” way to write a review. For blogs the best reviews are the ones which reflect the blog owners personality. Which pick up their language inflections and just feel lie ‘them’. Sure you may see your own style develop ver time, but that is all for you to work on. Nobody should be telling you what or how to write that is all for you to decide. Don’t let a bully like this stop you doing something you enjoy and are good at. And if you are feeling up to it. Send them a big FU.

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    1. I couldn’t agree more, Claire. We are all different and reviews are subjective. I would never want to write a review how someone tells me I should. I feel like we always have to be honest and write how we want and include the content we want to include without standards.

      Sorry to be responding to your comment so late. I appreciate your thoughts. Take care. 🙂

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  13. starjustin

    I think all of these comments above are great! It’s true. I see reviews that probably needed an outline to write. Lmao! I not only write what I feel from my thoughts but also from my heart when it comes to reading a book. After all, you can’t just read a book and put all the time into reading it and then leave a review that you’re worried about others liking, especially if the ‘others’ are authors. Just like someone behind you in traffic honking their horn so they can make decisions for their driving and for driving your car at the same time. Soooooo funny! I love this post! Keep up the great reviews Jen. I’ve seen the effort you put into them. No one can do better. 🙂

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    1. I agree. Love everyone’s thoughts here and I appreciate yours too. I would get so tired of reading reviews if we all had the same thoughts and wrote all the same way. That’s how I feel and I’m sticking to it! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts too and for your kind comments!! ❤ Appreciate it so much!

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  14. Great post and I agree with you 100%. She had no right criticizing your review. It’s your opinion and you’re are entitled to it. You keep doing things the way you want to do them and don’t let people’s stupidity get u see your skin.

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  15. David R. Dowdy

    You are to be commended for sharing your thoughts on this. Anyone who writes a book is subject to the response of his or her readers. I think you provide a wonderful service to them with your numerous (and, may I add, honest) reviews.

    To the apparently heartbroken author: Be happy for your reviews because, if you let them, they will HELP YOU become a better writer. Get a thicker skin. This is not personal. Readers aren’t out to get you. Also, read reviews of the books of your contemporaries and tell me they all glow and are all accompanied by 4 and 5 star ratings.

    Writing reviews is not easy and it can be painful to say that a work is not good. No one but the lowest snake (certainly not you, Jen!) would write a review to hurt someone.

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    1. David, thank you. What you say is true– It can totally be painful to write a negative review and some people choose not to write them at all because of that fact. But being honest is key! Your advice to authors is perfect as well. Your comments are always so insightful! ❤ I appreciate you sharing your feelings on this.

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  16. Wow, some people were just born rude. I can’t imagine telling someone what to write or how to write (well, with the exception of my English students, but I’m paid to give them “guidance” and even then I don’t tell them that their personal opinions about what we read in class is ever wrong!! I don’t care if they hate what I assign them or disagree with me about what a book means, they are entitled to an opinion. This is not a communist country, ugh!). This honestly makes me angry. One, I don’t like anyone, I don’t care who you are, ever telling me what I can and cannot do in the first place or that I cannot think a certain way, and that is exactly what she did. Two, these are book reviews written by a diverse group of people who a) don’t have to take the time away from their families, lives, work, etc to write reviews when they aren’t getting paid to do so and b) no one is going to write the same or share an exact opinion even if we do like the same book. And if we dislike it, oh well! That’s human nature and what keeps us all keeling over from boredom.

    Yes, there is might be a professional way to write book reviews, but none of us are professionals, and I think if we all followed the same little format then all the reviews would lose their uniqueness and be as stale as the Halloween candy still sitting in my pantry! I follow and read different reviews because I like the blogger’s style, end of story. And I’ll keep writing my reviews the same way that I have been…some are more intense and detailed than others, but that is because the book meant hit me deeply or what not. And you keep writing your reviews the same as you do! Because you are awesome! I love you and your reviews! ❤ And I know that you are just like I am; we both struggle to put words to paper when it comes to reviews, which is why half the time I don't write reviews since it feels like more of a chore than anything. So when I do write one after hours and hours of sweat, blood, and tears, it's an accomplishment that I'm proud of, and I know you feel the same way! And you should be!! Don't ever let anyone belittle your reviews or make you want to change them! They are perfect, my friend! ❤ 🙂

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    1. Stephanie, I love every part of your comment! Thank you so much. I love your reviews too and this is exactly what I’m talking about. We all write differently and that’s awesome. We have our different likes and dislikes and it keeps it interesting. I totally agree. Your comment about writing reviews feeling like a chore is spot on. To me, formatting etc. would complicate it even more. As long as our thoughts are there, it’s good. 💜 Why make things harder than needed?

      Thanks so much for commenting and sharing your feelings, Stephanie. You’re an awesome friend. 😙 I hope you guys are staying well! ❤

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  17. I apologize in advance for my profanity, but f*ck her. Please feel free to delete this, if it offends anyone. But seriously, it’s your blog, your opinion and your review, and who the hell does this person think she is getting on your case for expressing an opinion? Last time I checked, there was still freedom of speech in this country. Sorry, but this post really bugged me, not because of you, but because of how entitled and stupid people are. I personally adore your blog and your reviews about many different things, and I highly encourage you to keep writing and sharing your voice and opinions. I’d be very sad and disappointed if you didn’t.

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    1. No need to apologize, Vanessa! I appreciate your thoughts every time. Everyone seems to have the same feelings on it and I believe the same way. I honestly don’t know what’s wrong with people. I’m far from perfect, but to attack people over their opinions on a book seems crazy. Thanks so much for your encouragement! You always have the best advice.

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  18. I have had this once, the author and her friend bashing my review up because I didn’t like how certain medical procedures were written.
    And there are certain books which are just so boring, I try to be kind, but I can’t help writing the word ‘boring’ when that’s the only word brain comes up with. It was that bored.
    After a few messages back and forth, the author agreed to my POV. But her friend kept bashing up. I told her to start a blog and write her own reviews… And she disappeared.
    On your point, I am never going to write a review in any format. Reading is an emotional journey for me, so I write those emotions in my review. The book review pundits can stop dictating their terms on us. My blog, my review, my views, I write what I want to.
    What happens to freedom of speech then? ¿
    There are many people in power who say outrageous stuff, shouldn’t their speech too be formatted?
    A lovely post, it’s a bit mentally draining when someone writes such comments, that too, on your personal blog. But remember that, those people have nothing productive to do in life
    An author is supposed to take the bad with the good, because reading is individualistic.
    Write your posts, Mischenko, forget the rest. We like your posts. And I never knew reviews don’t come easy, you make it look as smooth as your smoothies.

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    1. Thanks, Shalini. I agree! I think it’s important to be kind. I think the word boring is pretty straight forward. I do understand that from an author’s point of view that negative reviews and ratings can’t be easy to deal with, but it’s going to happen. I was really surprised to be attacked by a fellow reader, but I do hear people talking about how it’s happened to them as well. I’m sorry you had to deal with this as well and from two people! I’m glad the author finally agreed though.

      I also don’t want to follow formats or conform to writing reviews any specific way. To me it’s best to just let it flow. That’s what works for me. I love that we all have our own styles. To your comment about people in power, that’s also so true!

      Thanks so much for your thoughts and positive comments, Shalini. I appreciate it so much. ❤

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  19. My goodness, I am so sorry you had such bothering thing happening to you!
    You expressed my thoughts beautifully on this post… writing books reviews never come easy for me either. Believe it or not, in addition to English being my second language, I cannot write as polished reviews as many other book bloggers (or professional reviewers) do!
    But then, if we were meant to write reviews or even our thoughts on books perfectly conforming to some specific patterns, as you described, there would no point in us writing them because they all would look the same!! Cookie cutter reviews. What fun would there be anyway??

    My reviews tend to be emotion-driven. I have never been, or will never be an objective, analytical reviewer who can dissect sentences and paragraphs and articulate their thoughts in detail. That is not my style and not who I am.

    We are entitled to our own voices and we are ought to be entitled to execute our voice and our opinions.
    Being fair, trying to be fair is important, I don’t think we should just slap our opinions (especially negative ones) without providing fair reasons or explanations; it’d be plain rude and disrespectful. However, as long as we provide good enough reason as to why some things work/don’t work for us, then we should be entitled to state our honest feelings toward books!
    Great post, Jenn! My thoughts are always with you ❤

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    1. I’m always so surprised to hear you say that your reviews don’t come easy, Noriko! You certainly can’t tell and to me yours read amazing. I’m also really glad you like this topic and appreciate your views.

      I feel like I try to let my emotions take the wheel when it comes to writing like you mention. They don’t always end up coming out the same as far as format. I do agree that fair important as well. If I hate a book, I’ll explain what I didn’t like, and still recommend others to read it for themselves. I’m not a person who likes to leave negative reviews and I’ll admit that. This particular book that I’m talking about in this post I rated 3.5 which I didn’t think was very bad at all. She mentioned that I needed to put thought into my review, but she bashed everything I said about the story and the characters. You really can’t please everyone. 🙂

      Thank you for your comment. ❤ Hope we can chat later about this topic some more. Have a great day!

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  20. Everyone should be free to write a review based on what they liked and didn’t. There are no rules.

    I’ve had authors bash me because I bought the book, found formatting and typo errors on every chapter and I called it out in my review. All her followers were trashing my name a if I was a newbie (even if I’d been it didn’t give them the right). I removed my review from amazon bc it wasn’t worth having all those morons trash my reputation and what a book snob I am, even though it wasn’t even an ARC. It was a book I paid for with my own money. Anyway, that author is trash to me and I’d never read any of her books. I figured she could keep the royalties from the sale, so she could maybe hire a better editor.

    Bottom line is you write your reviews as you see fit. They want a professional review? They can go pay $500 at Kirkus or some other website. Gosh. Authors won’t even thank you much less follow you, yet many beg for readers to leave a review. Please. 🙄

    Just keep writing your reviews the way you want to. If someone doesn’t like it, they can unfollow you. It’s their loss not yours. ((Hugs))

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    1. Wow, yeah that’s insane. I would never want to read another book by that author again. I can’t believe that. People really have the gall to act like that.

      This–“They can go pay $500 at Kirkus or some other website. Gosh. Authors won’t even thank you much less follow you, yet many beg for readers to leave a review. “– I couldn’t agree more. I should’ve expanded on this more because it’s something I’ve experienced since I started which can really make you feel like dog crap, excuse my language.

      Thanks so much for sharing your comments on this topic. I’m glad to know I’m not alone in my thinking with all of this. Take care. ❤

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  21. Wonderful post! Not sure who is telling people how they should write reviews but they haven’t got to me yet… and I write pretty unpolished reviews, but you know what people seem to like them and respect my opinion even though I definitely have my own style and I’m not going to change that…
    I think your reviews are great and if we were all writers we would all be writing books right? People need to just stay in their own lane! Keep doing you!😘

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    1. I love your reviews and respect your opinions as well. This is basically something I’ve been seeing around with people talking about professional review writing and how reviews should be written. I won’t mention names because it doesn’t matter. I just don’t like the idea as people have a lot to do as it is and I don’t think there should be any set standard or way that we should write. I would never say anything about how someone reviews a book. That’s just crazy.

      Exactly, we’d be writing books. 😀 You nailed it. ❤ Thank you so much.

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  22. Wow, this is a very thought provoking situation. I read the comments and agree with all of them. No one can tell you your opinions are wrong. It remind me of being in school when a teacher asked what do you think on a test or exam, then told me I was wrong. Your reviews are always well done and thought out, don’t change them and keep them coming.

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  23. I was told once that I must be illiterate because I HATED a book that someone else apparently loved. (Though I am suspicious that it was a friend of the author.) They proclaimed that they had a degree in English and knew good writing when they saw it. I told them that they were clearly a liar and a troll all wrapped up into one and they never responded. I don’t deal with people’s bullshit in real life why would I do it in my book reviews? Like you said, this is a hobby, we don’t make money and everyone has their own opinions and feelings. If they don’t like it, they can step off.

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    1. I’m sorry it happened to you too! I’ve heard people talk about it and honestly, I was always amazed how long it took to finally happen to me lol. It’s ridiculous.I have books that I love that others say aren’t written well and because of that, they trash on them, but to me I’m willing to overlook it because I love the story. We all have our own standards and there’s nothing wrong with that. I love your comment! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. ❤

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  24. I agree with everything you said Mischenko. 100%!! The point of reviews is to give an honest assessment of how you personally felt about a book you’ve read. Period. Your reviews are excellent, and they inform the reader community. Sometimes people love a book that I think is just okay. And do you know what? I review it the way I see fit, even if I’m in the minority about my opinion of it. And you’re right. Writing reviews is time consuming and difficult. And it’s true. Few authors bother to promote the blogs that hype their books, so we should write reviews how we see fit, and not according to some standard. Write on!!

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    1. Thanks, Laurie! That means a lot and I’m glad to know I’m not alone in my thoughts on this. It’s wrong to think that just because a higher percentage liked a book that everyone should feel the same way. Thanks so much for sharing how you feel about this and for your honest book reviews! I’m so glad you shared this. ❤

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  25. I definitely agree — your post title says it all! Did the person criticizing your review do it on your blog? That’s just rude, in my opinion. Every blogger has his or her own approach, and as you say, that’s what keeps it interesting!

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    1. Hi, and thank you. Yes, she left the comment on my blog after logging in with her Facebook account. I was shocked really. I understood what she was saying as far as how she felt about the book, but to tell me that my opinions were wrong and to say that hers were all right seems insane. I can’t believe people actually do this. Thanks so much for your comment! I totally agree. 🙂 ❤

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  26. AH YES A MILLION TIMES TO THIS POST!! It’s been bothering me a lot lately too how people are telling others how to write reviews- especially because I don’t think they realise how much unnecessary stress this adds. For most of us this is a non-professional hobby. And it would be so boring if everyone wrote the same anyway.

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    1. Thank you, and totall agree! It does add more stress and as if people have all this time to perfect their reviews and write them a certain way. Like I said, I know it’s good to better yourself, but I personally need to be able to review the way I am and to just let my thoughts flow. I really struggle to get it out of my head and down on paper as it is. I really love that we all have our own style too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. I appreciate it so much. Take care. ❤

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  27. Ok, once I stopped laughing at your spoiled characters I managed to read the rest of the post. Seriously I think there’s nothing we can do but ignore those that don’t have a clue how opinions work. Really if we are all meant to feel the same way about every book then why is there a need for reviews at all? I did an early review for a book once that I gave 2 stars while everyone else was 4 and 5 and I was more than polite as I always try to be but one lady came along and said I wasn’t being “fair”. I asked how giving my opinion wasn’t fair and that while I was happy she enjoyed it I simply didn’t but she never responded but what I did get was the occasional “I so agree with you” comment from there on out. We all have our own style and we all have our own opinions but I suppose there will always be the sheep out there that can’t handle that. /end rant

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    1. I totally agree, Carrie. You make some great points. I’m so sorry it happened to you too! ❤ Thanks for sharing your experience and thoughts. Sorry I'm late commenting back. I never got the notification! 😀

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  28. I’m sorry, but why can’t everyone just treat each other with DECENCY and RESPECT? You didn’t like the book. You write a review stating that fact, but in a way that doesn’t disrespect the author or their work. It just wasn’t for you. And anybody reading the review may, or may not, agree with your review. Either way because you didn’t disrespect the author or their work, that person SHOULD NOT be messaging you and treating you with total disrespect!!! It’s not right!!

    I’m really sorry this happened to you. You’re a good, decent and respectful blogger. You don’t deserve to be treated like that.

    xoxo, Donna

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    1. I feel the same, Donna. I don’t get it and I feel like I always try to be fair. We all do! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate your support!! ❤ I didn't get notifications so I'm sorry I'm late commenting back to you. 🙂 Take care.

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  30. Crush that complainer like a bug!!!! Stomp them flat and then spread their remains all over the internet.

    That’s what I do when I get someone complaining about my review. Of course, I’m pretty heavy handed on my blog, a veritable tyrant of a petty god, so complainers like that get the verbal boot and then the block 😀

    Hope you don’t get the stress of dealing with complainy jerks very often…

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    1. Haha thanks! I agree. It’s such a pain and people just need to simmer down a bit. This was actually the first time this has happened to me and hopefully it won’t happen again, but I’m sure it will. Part of it I guess. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts!! 😀

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  31. Totally agree, reviews need to be personal and individual, not formatted. I spend hours trying to decide how to review a book I hated, weighing up all the pro’s and con’s for the author, taking into account that its personal taste etc.
    An author once asked me to remove a disclaimer because it would put people off. Seems like bookbloggers can’t win!

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    1. Thank you! I think so too. It takes me a very long time to write reviews sometimes as well and for the reasons you mention here. It totally doesn’t surprise me! I think you’re right too. It’s like no matter what we do it’s always something. I guess that’s all part if it though. Thankfully this hasn’t happened often. Thank you for sharing your experience! ❤

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  32. Madam Mim

    Couldn’t agree more! All book reviewers write from a unique perspective, and that’s what’s great about it! There’s all sorts of people out there, and not everyone’s going to like what you do unfortunately. But if you’re stirring up a reaction, I’d say you’ve probably done something right!

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    1. I’m glad you agree! What you say is true and you can’t make everyone happy. I agree that we need to be able to share our thoughts on books or whatever we are reviewing without being attacked. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this! ❤

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  33. Unless you’re a professional writer reviewing books for established review sources that require certain elements in their reviews, you can do whatever the hell you want. Just my opinion, that. There are so many generous readers out there who are willing to devote time to sharing their opinions FOR FREE, that this business about “standard formats” is just plain nonsense. And yes, you should always give your honest opinion. Ideally, an author should take that criticism in and use it to help them improve their work. The fans are another story, though…

    I once had someone attack me on Goodreads for a review I wrote of The Mysterious Stranger by Mark Twain. I thought it was a crap book. This person wrote me a blistering 10 PAGE response that bordered on psychotic. They actually wrote “How do you think your shitty opinion makes the author feel?” Ummmm…he’s been dead for awhile, so probably NOTHING? It was so disturbing, I deleted my Goodreads account and stayed away from that site for years.

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