Covid-19 and Road Rage…

I have two things on my mind this morning: Covid-19 and road rage. 

Recently I watched a movie titled Unhinged with Russell Crowe. He’s always been one of my favorite actors, but this movie was quite different, and his character was surprising. In a nutshell, he goes psycho on a woman who blares her horn at him at a green light. Needless to say, the encounter turns into the worst day this woman has ever had, and all because she exhibited a little road rage by blasting her horn on the man to reiterate that she didn’t agree with him stopping at a green light. It’s extreme and horrifying.

This leads into yesterday morning, which was a bit of a mess for me. The night prior, my daughter who just turned 11 came to me with a splitting headache in the middle of the night. I knew something was wrong because she had just taken a Tylenol in the evening for a headache. By midnight the headache came back with a vengeance—only this time with a high fever. By morning she was vomiting heavily and had horrible joint pain throughout. The very thing I’ve worked hard to avoid for over a year had made its way into my home: Covid-19.

We had our first ‘official’ family outing last Friday, which included the zoo, a picnic, and golfing for the kids.

My two youngest girls are the only two not vaccinated and they wore masks and we were outside almost the entire time. We avoided public restrooms, took our own picnic, and had masks for whenever we entered a crowded area. The only thing lacking was constant hand-washing. Not only that, our state is doing well with low numbers of new infections; in fact, the county that we were in only had 3 new cases on July 1st.

I’m still shocked that my daughter somehow contracted this virus. Being that the new ‘more contagious’ Delta variant is in all states and has risen to about half of all Covid infections in the US, I’m assuming that’s what we’re dealing with now. Currently her fever is 102 on Tylenol; it’s been over 36 hours, and this thing hasn’t budged. She feels like she’s been hit by a truck, and I have no idea how long it will last or what symptoms may manifest over the next few weeks. Will she exhibit serious symptoms? Might she turn out to be a long-hauler? Will my youngest daughter who has asthma contract it? I have no idea, but I can’t seem to shake the thoughts. I’ve been listening to people talk about how this virus is ‘just like the flu’ and ‘not a big deal’ for over a year, especially for kids, and I sit here looking at my daughter who can barely walk and in horrible pain even with Tylenol on board. This virus doesn’t mess around—it can be way worse than just the flu—and it’s affecting every one of us in this house in one way or another. I can say this with 100% certainty now that I see it for myself in my own child.

So, yesterday morning with this being quite new, my husband and I discussed that we needed to get her tested quickly to know for sure. Currently there are eight people in my home which includes my five kids, and my other youngest daughter has asthma. I knew it was going to be a challenge if we needed to social distance everyone. We drove 45 minutes to a CVS that offered rapid testing. On the way down rural roads I came up behind a pick-up truck that wasn’t even driving the speed limit. Now, I’m not one who loves to pass, so I was riding him just a little bit and didn’t even think about it because my mind was too hung up on other things. He proceeded to put his hand up in the air indicating that I could go over the top of him. This is something my grandfather used to do, and I about broke down. It looked just like my grandfather in that truck—signaling me to fly over because “Hell ain’t full” like he used to say. I backed off instantly and tried to control my internal monologue which was obviously in overdrive. I kept reminding myself to listen to something my friend said: “I’m sure she didn’t pick up Covid. She probably has a stomach flu.” In the end, those thoughts didn’t really matter because the nurse was out to our car in 10 minutes with a paper indicating my daughter’s positive results.

I’m old enough to know better than to ride too close behind someone. It could’ve turned out badly: the man could’ve slammed on his brakes or worse. I’ve been involved in a horrible road rage incident when I was a new driver and a crazy man actually got out and punched my car. This got me thinking about this whole road rage thing. There’s something to keep in mind: who knows what people are going through. For me it was nonsense because I was late for our appointment and obviously a little worried for my daughter. I just wasn’t thinking and truly wanted to apologize to the man (even though he wasn’t driving very well). Life isn’t easy and we all have to deal with ups and downs. I realize that setting thoughts aside is still something I need to work on.

Have you ever been involved in a road rage incident? Have you ever caught yourself riding someone because you were thinking about something else? Are you forgiving towards others when they make mistakes while driving?

Thanks for reading,

❤️ Mischenko

70 thoughts on “Covid-19 and Road Rage…

  1. Oh, Mischenko, I’m so sorry to hear your daughter has COVID. I pray she rebounds from it quickly, especially with so many hours now behind her and it still hasn’t budged. I know it has to be horrible for you as well knowing how miserable she feels. You were all so careful. It’s scary how contagious this wretched disease is.

    As for road rage, I remember reading an article last year that said pretty much what you said—not knowing what is going on in the other person’s life. I try to be conscious of that when I’m driving and get irritated with someone. I have been guilty in the past of riding a little too close on someone’s bumper. Now when I’m tempted, I stop and think of that article.

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    1. Thank you, Mae. I can’t stand being sick, so it doesn’t stress me out to see her so knocked down by this. I’m also wondering if m my four border collies can contract it. I’m sure they’d be fine, but I’m concerned it can get passed to my youngest daughter easier. There’s just a lot to think about I guess.

      Like you, I’m going to remind myself every time it happens. Too often I get irritated and it’s so silly. It’s one thing when someone is being completely reckless, but I’ve seen people get enraged over too long of a pause at a stop sign. Thanks for sharing your experience. ❤️

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    1. It sure was, Susan. It wasn’t ten minutes later when the nurse came out with the results. Originally they told me the nurse would call me in my car with the results, but they walked out with paperwork.

      In a way I knew because now just isn’t the time for flus, etc. we’ve just started summer. I’m really glad we opted for the rapid test rather than the 24-hour.

      Thank you 💜

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  2. I am so sorry to hear that COVID has come to your family. I think stress has affected us all while driving at some point. The important thing is that we realize what we are doing and that will make us vigilant in the future. Prayers for your daughter’s recovery and for the safety of your family.

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  3. Praying for your daughter’s quick recovery. I had one incident in New York that a driver next to me on a parkway held up a gun bc he thought I wasn’t going fast enough. Needless to say, I pulled over when I could and got off the parkway.

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    1. Oh my gosh, that is so crazy! You just never know what people are going to do these days. I’d rather just avoid the confrontation all-together. My husband used to yell and throw the finger at people when he was younger. Now that he’s in his 40s, he’s lost that road anger thankfully. I’m glad you were able to get out of that situations. Thank you 🧡

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  4. David R. Dowdy

    Been involved in road rage twice all because I tapped my horn both times when drivers cut me off. I only wanted them to know they’d done something wrong but you’d have thought I challenged them to a duel over my own misbehavior. Needless to say, I don’t even bother anymore. It happened just last week and I laughed it off for my own sanity.

    Gosh, will this pandemic ever truly end? Hoping for a quick recovery!

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    1. David, it’s funny you mention the tapping of the horn, because that’s what the victim of the road rage incident expected: a curiosity tap. It doesn’t seem worth it, but I know for defensive driving purposes, we are supposed to be able to use our horns as needed. It seems to cause too much upheaval though. Thanks so much. ❤️

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  5. First, I’m praying for your daughter’s and family’s well being. I’ve known people who have had Covid-19 and it was NOT a bad flu experience. I’ll be pulling for you.

    Road rage is real and you never know who’s behind the wheel. Many years ago, I used to be an aggressive driver, driving fast and riding bumpers of slower vehicles. When one of those drivers decided to chase me, it shook me up because it was obvious he meant harm. I really had good driving skills and was able to lose him but that was my wake up call. I changed my ways and it wasn’t long after that I was involved in a car crash (not my fault) that was terrible but I came out of it with minor injuries…because I was driving 10 mph less than I used to.

    Thanks for the reminder of two things: Don’t be part of the road rage out there and be mindful that you never know what others may be going through.

    Thanks for sharing, Mischenko💜

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    1. Wow, Jo, that is extremely scary! I’m glad you were able to get away from the driver. I’m also glad that it was a wake-up call for you, and I don’t mean that in a rude way. We all have to learn from our mistakes, and it sounds like you could’ve experienced some serious injuries later on. My husband has also changed a lot over the years with his driving too. I can remember a time when I was in my 20s, and I had multiple tickets. Take care, Jo, and thanks for sharing your thoughts. ❤️

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  6. So sorry to hear about your daughter. I know you have been so cautious and careful. Will definitely keep positive thoughts going your way.
    And, I have not experienced road rage myself but your story did remind me of a few years ago when I was hospitalized for a week because I had multiple dangerous blood clots with no history of clots. My husband was with me almost around the clock leaving my teen daughters to fend for themselves. He was a wreck and during one of his trips home he was stopped by local police and ended up with a ticket for “bullying the policeman.” Of course, the ticket didn’t stick since that’s not a thing, but I was thinking he should’ve told them, at least briefly, what was going on because I’m sure that whatever he did/said that prompted the ticket was a direct consequence of his worrying and his eagerness to get home and then back to the hospital.

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    1. Oh my, yeah, if only the police officer knew! I do feel like it could’ve helped depending on the officer. Sometimes they tend not to believe people because I’m sure they hear a lot of excuses. I’m glad it was dropped though. Thanks, Tessa. 🧡

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  7. I’m sorry, that is a lot to go through, Mischenko. I can’t imagine the stress you are under. There is no more unsettling time for me than when my son is sick. To diligently avoid exposure for so long and then end up with it when things have abated so much seems ridiculously unfair. I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts, and will pray for your daughter’s speedy full recovery. Stay strong mama! ❤

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    1. I appreciate that so much. 😊 It’s weird looking back on it now because I’ve heard numerous people say that the moment they let their guard down they had a family member come down with it. Truly, I thought our state was in a much better place. I’m pretty sure it’s just flowing through the community with kids and maybe most are not getting sick from it. Who knows though. Thanks again! ❤️🧡❤️

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  8. Positive and healing thoughts coming your way for your daughter’s quick and complete recovery 💚 I haven’t really experienced much road rage, only one incident comes to mind and compared to some of the answers here it was nothing. A car was meandering along in the outside lane holding up the traffic. I wanted the next exit so I changed to the inside lane and actually passed the slow car before I turned off. He must have thought I was overtaking from the inside and blasted his horn as he and the passenger made several hand gestures, shall we say 😉 Some people have no thought for other drivers.

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    1. Thank you, Cathy. It’s so weird, isn’t it? To me, when you’re driving slower, it’s to be expected that people will pass. When I’m in an unfamiliar area, I tend to drive slower. Fast drivers honk and act crazy, especially in Illinois. 😆 I figure it’s expected when you’re driving slower than normal. Thank you so much. 💜

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  9. Susan Libanio

    Oh, how sad that your little girl is suffering so! I find that tylenol alone does nothing for me. For any type of flu-like symptom, l take one regular strength tylenol and one advil together. Helps the fever and the aches at the same time. If she has congestion, one of those nasal wash systems (NeilMed is the one I use) will help relieve the painful sinus headaches. I have allergies to just about everything and I use my Neilmed every day – sometimes twice a day.
    As for the road rage – you kept your cool, and that is what counts. Honking your horn to alert the slow-moving driver was no big deal. You don’t need to be an ultra perfect driver. Interesting how these “delay tactics” always happen when we are in a bit of a crisis. I tell myself that the Universe is sending me a message of some sort – but usually I am just so grumpy at the delay to heed it. You should pat yourself in the back. You were facing the one thing that entire countries have gone into lockdown to avoid. How terrifying for you. So, you did well and kept your cool.

    Hmmm: maybe the Zoo was where it happened? Birds and animals tend to have all kinds of insects/parasites lurking in their feathers and fur. She didn’t even need to touch the animal. I really did not like the way children were vaccinated last. That was just so unfair. Up here in Canada, we are still in the process of vaccinating our young children and for a while there, they reopened the schools. Of course, the numbers went way up as a result!
    I hope your daughter feels well soon, and the rest of your children stay well! Positive thoughts sent your way. Stay strong!

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    1. Same here, Susan, but Motrin hasn’t been advised for Covid-19 for some time now. It has some type of negative effect on it. The Tylenol is at least starting to keep her more comfortable. I’ll be glad when the fevers completely gone…and the pain of course.

      I agree with you too on the kids getting vaccines last. A lady told me when I took my older kids to get vaccines that people weren’t as willing to volunteer their kids for trials, and that’s why it took more time. I see Pfizer is looking at September now. That’s really good news.

      Thanks so much for all your advice, Susan. You know I appreciate it. Take care, friend. ❤️

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    1. It’s so true, Kim. I was thinking positively and feeling like we could finally get out safely, especially outdoors. Considering this is our first time out together, and then this happened, I’m not listening to what anyone (so-called experts) has to say about this pandemic anymore. Getting infected outside is obviously way more common than they say it is. Thank you so much. 💜

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  10. I’m so sorry you’re going through tough time. It must be hard to manage social distance specially when there are kids in house. Keep monitoring symptoms, temperature, and oxygen level and all that is necessary. I hope your daughter recovers quickly.

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    1. It’s challenging, Yesha. Luckily, most of us are vaccinated except for my youngest two kids. My middle two kids just finished up with their second shots a month ago. I’ll be happy when they can all be in the safe zone. I appreciate your advice and thoughts. Take care and thank you! Hugs ❤️

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  11. Cars are WAY more dangerous than guns so I’m always aware of other drives. I’m also trying to train myself to think more charitably of other drivers who do really stupid or dangerous things, just so I don’t start reacting. Because that’s a chain reaction waiting to happen 😦
    I have a feeling we’re going to see more and more road rage incidents that will end up in fatalities.

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    1. Me too, and I think you’re right. I’m trying very hard to not even say things out loud because I’ve called names with my kids in the car and that just teaches them bad behavior. It’s scary to think about. We once—before the pandemic—had a guy yell at us to move our van. He used horrible language including the F-word and signaled to me in a physically threatening way. It was scary for the kids, but harder for me to keep my mouth shut. What I wanted to do was get out and yell in his face, but I’m fully aware of how crazy people can be and would rather avoid the stress all together. It’s so bad for the heart.

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  12. I’m so sorry to read about your daughter. That’s so awful 😟😔
    I hope she will fully recover very soon, and no one else in your household will get sick.
    My thoughts are with you and your family. All the best wishes to you all. Take care 💐❤🌷

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        1. She’s doing much better. We’re thinking about taking her back in to get tested because she’s finally ready to start moving around the house after a week of the couch. The fever was relentless. She’s still very fatigued and has some left over symptoms like lack of smell and taste. I hope that won’t linger too long. Luckily, it never did go to her lungs. I appreciate you asking. Thank you ❤️

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        2. I’m so happy to hear she’s recovering! 😃 and also that it didn’t get to her lungs. Hopefully her scent and taste will return soon 🤞🏻
          Of course. I’ve been keeping an eye out for an update about the situation. But figured I could just ask. I’ve been thinking about her.
          I’m really relieved to read she is recovering. Good luck with the last lingering effects 💕🌷

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  13. starjustin

    It is difficult to believe that COVID-19 has come to our home now but, all that matters is that our young one gets well. I guess I believed things were calming down a little for the virus.
    I have always said, since your GP was a drivers Ed teacher, that it’s best just to take care of your driving defensively so that you make the right decisions to prevent altercation with others on the road, especially with others in your vehicle . I know it’s easier said than done. People are very stressed these days, more so than ever now. Always best to be and stay safe. ❣️🙏🏻

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    1. I believed too! With only three cases listed for July 1st and most days under ten cases, I figured we were in the best spot we’ve been in since the beginning.

      You’re right, people are very stressed. We have to remember that. Thank you 💜

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  14. I only honk my horn when someone is about to cause an accident. I’ve just read too many road rage incidents that have turned into shootings in my state. It’s just not worth it. I hope your daughter gets better ASAP and has no long term side effects!

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  15. Oh dear. I’m really sorry that your daughter caught Covid. I hope it will go away soon and she will be able to recover successfully from it.

    I’ve never been in a road rage incident, but I’ve heard lots of horrible stories about it, esp on the news this year as things begin to open up more and people start to move around more again.

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    1. It seems to be relentless at this point, although her fever has finally come back down to a lower level. I just hope this won’t linger on for long. It’s hard when a kid can’t even get off the couch. She’s in really good spirits though. I appreciate your kind words. ❤️

      I’m glad you haven’t had to deal with road rage. It’s horrible.

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  16. I’m sorry to hear about your daughter. I hope she recovers fully and that no one else in your home has contracted it. As for road rage, I keep hoping we all remember that there is a human on the other side and not a cyborg. Hugs and best wishes for you all. ❤

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    1. Thank you, Sascha. Her fever is more manageable today, but she still has many other issues like headaches, back pain, throat pain, and fatigue. I’ve never had a headache for five days. This virus is so weird. My youngest daughter is now having GI symptoms, and I’m hopeful it stays at that. If this stays clear of their lungs I’ll be the happiest person alive.
      Excellent advice too. ❤️ Thanks again. Enjoy your weekend.

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  17. I’m so sorry your daughter contracted COVID and hate that she’s feeling so bad. Praying it doesn’t spread through your family. I work in healthcare and it’s amazing to me how many people still won’t get vaccinated – and some of them say exactly what you mentioned about it not being so bad. Crazy. As for road rage, seems like I deal with it on a daily basis, lol.

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    1. Thanks, Teri. Luckily, most of us are vaccinated, but my youngest isn’t, and she has asthma. We’re able to keep the kids apart, so I’m hopeful we can keep it under control. It’s possible she already has it though.

      I don’t get people. This is a learning experience for me because I’ve read multiple articles stating that this virus only causes mild symptoms for kids, but my kid is going on day 6 with a continuous return of headaches and other neurological symptoms. All I can do is pray that the chances of a horrible lung infection are already gone. This is a very strange virus and unpredictable if you ask me. I’d rather have the vaccine on board than not!

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    1. I appreciate that. She’s at least lost the high fever and no more vomiting. It seems to be mainly neurological at this point. I just hope it’s on the way out. 💜 Thanks for your kind wishes.

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  18. I’m so sorry to hear your daughter is sick, M. I can’t even imagine the stress you all are under right now. Sending healing vibes and prayers for her recovery. Let us know how she’s doing if you can. Regarding road rage, I’ve witnessed some incidents involving others, and it has made me a much more careful driver. I don’t tailgate etc., but there’s also the road rage that can happen when a driver acts “too safe,” making others angry, and I worry about that, too!

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    1. Thanks, Jen. What a week it’s been. She absolutely is better than she was last week, but she has some lingering symptoms that bother me, including unrelenting fatigue. I’m just glad the fever is gone for now.

      Tailgating is just so dumb. I also try to avoid ever doing it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Jen. ❤ Hope you are doing well.

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  19. Thank you for sharing your story. People here have been in such a hurry to go back to “normal” that they’ve forgotten all the children who aren’t protected by vaccinations yet. I hope your daughter feels better soon and you can get some rest. Sending love to your family!

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    1. It’s so true, Loren. I guess I wanted to believe the lower numbers were legit. We went back out, and the cases were already much higher than we thought. I’ll be so happy when the younger kids can get a vaccination. Thank you!

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  20. So sorry to hear that your daughter is unwell, Jen. I pray that her health is restored soon. The young ones are said to be resilient so be encouraged. She will fight this and come out okay. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

    So sorry about the road rage incident though its understandable given the fact that you had so much on your mind.

    I experienced road rage when I was a new driver. Mostly from impatient other drivers who madly hooted at me and in one case, someone pushed me off the road and a trailer driver once switched lanes and drove up to me head on and didn’t stop until his huge trailer was right in front of me, towering over my small car. I was terrified and frozen on the spot. I legit thought I was going to be run over. I could see him and his co-driver laughing. I think he intentionally tried to scare me because I had an ‘L’ tags indicating that I am learning how to drive. Such an evil man. You mentioning that movie has me curious about it.

    Take care Jen. Sending you and your family good vibes and prayers ❤

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  21. It is amazing that with all the precautions you have taken, Covid still got into your house. I worry because my grandchildren are too young to be vaccinated. The older two do not hesitate to wear a mask when asked and do not get upset when they have to leave somewhere because others will not wear a mask, but I still worry about them.

    Road Rage is an interesting topic. I was a much more impatient driver when I was younger and yes, had much on my mind. I ease off now when someone is going below the speed limit or does something else such as no blinker, speed up – slow down etc. I am sure many people get frustrated with me when I drive, but I have not been a target of road rage.

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    1. It is, Carla, but the first time we all went out it happened. We weren’t washing our hands as much because we were at the zoo and wanted to avoid the public bathrooms there because they were packed. There were hardly any people wearing masks too. It’s a reminder not to let your guard down for sure. I’ve heard that over and over again and now it happened to us. It seems odd that the restrictions are gone now even though none of our very young population is vaccinated.

      I’m glad you haven’t had to experience road rage. I was more impatient as a younger driver too. Thanks for sharing that, Carla. 🧡 Be safe.

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  22. Sorry to hear about your daughter, is she over the worst now? My sons school had to shut 4 years down so 240 kids at home because of positive cases, its rampant here again but it seems our government want herd immunity as nothing is being done. 🙄💜

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    1. She’s through the worst and only has some lingering symptoms now. It took her about two weeks to get back to semi-normal.

      Aren’t the schools still closed for summer? Wow, that is wild. The cases seem to be going crazy again. I wonder if we’ll ever be clear of this virus. It’s relentless.

      Take care and stay safe. Thank you ❤️

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  23. I just hope your daughter gets better soon. It is quite natural for people to lose their temper if one’s mind is preoccupied and that too with one’s kid suffering so bad. It is quite common to vent out the frustration of such a situation on other people. Do take good care of your family and yourself.
    We have an article that focuses on the impact of COVID on the workplace.

    https://wordskraft.com/2020/04/16/the-covid-lockdown-isn't-a-vacation-the-show-shall-go-on-with-or-without-us/

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