Negative review? Keep it to yourself…

75bc78a3-6861-483d-b96a-300db3f4f2e5

  Recently I received a review request from an author. Unlike most requests that I’ve received in the past, this author didn’t even offer me a copy of the book—not even an eCopy. This is the first thing that perturbed me. Not to be rude, but there are so many books on my purchase list right now, and I’m not willing to take a chance spending money on a book by a new author I know nothing about. For me personally, if I were to ask someone to read my book, I’d at least ask them if they’d like an eCopy for review.

The second statement (to me) was even worse:

  If you don’t like the book, I ask that you please refrain from reviewing it.

  Really? So I’m supposed to buy your book and either lie on my review, or just not review it at all? How does this even seem right? I just spent hours reading your book, but the world revolves around your reputation and my thoughts, time, and money simply doesn’t matter?

  I’m a person who rates books mostly 2 to 5-stars and practically never 1-star. I’m not a book-basher which is clearly stated on my profile. My reviews may be far from perfect, but shouldn’t I be able to share my honest opinion of your book? After all, doesn’t every author receive a portion of negative reviews? How common is it to find a book that’s good for everyone?

Have some pride in your work. If you’re worried about people not liking it, maybe reconsider publishing it? Maybe also consider the fact that a negative review might help you meet the needs of your readers.

I’m really sorry if you’re an author or reviewer and you find this offensive, but this is just total BS to me. This isn’t the first time it’s happened to me, and I know others have discussed this happening to them too, but it’s messages like this one that have totally turned me off to accepting author’s review requests anymore.

Feel free to share your honest thoughts.

Rating When You Didn’t Read It…

Here I am thinking about rating books without reading them. I’m beating the dead horse here, but with all the #cockygate drama, we’re seeing it all over again. Scrolling through Goodreads last night I consistently came across 1-star reviews or 5-star reviews for this author’s books and most from people who never read the books. They either feel this author is right for what she’s doing with trademarking the word ‘cocky’ and want to try to stop her ratings from dropping, or they totally hate the idea and they’re lashing out at her by bashing her books and leaving 1-star reviews.

giphy.gif

I remember when this happened with The Black Witch over racist characters last year and it began on Twitter. People read a review using the words ‘this author is racist’ and they retaliated by leaving 1-star ratings on the book. Not long after, it happened again with an author who threatened black magic on a reader for leaving a crappy review. The author threatened to curse him if he didn’t remove the statements he made in the review. Scads of people felt that these author’s needed to be chastised and began rating their books 1-star. I watched the ratings on both of these books drop from 4-stars all the way down to nearly 1-star in just under a week!

93e83e3b470efb8bb1e5c67c5e3eda15.gif

Now, I totally do NOT agree with what this author is doing trying to trademark a word that’s been used for probably 500 years or more. It’s asinine and I think she’s getting some serious backfire. What she’s done simply isn’t fair, but is this really the right thing to do when upset with an author for something they’ve done? Everyone makes their own decisions, but when does is become okay to rate a book 1-star when you haven’t read it or any rating for that matter? After all, no matter what the author has done, isn’t this lying? What sort of message does it send to younger readers when they see this happening?

I have mixed emotions about it, but in the case with #cockygate, I’m truly borderline! Part of me feels like it’s wrong to rate her books based off her actions with threatening other authors, but then I also think this is the only way that people can get their point across with their voice. I’d really like to hear your thoughts. What do you think? Continue reading “Rating When You Didn’t Read It…”

Rant: It’s MY Review and There Aren’t Laws!

A few months ago I received a message from a very angry woman who wasn’t pleased with my opinions on a book I’d recently reviewed. She was upset with me for multiple reasons, but mainly because I called the characters flat and spoiled (she misread the spoiler and thought that I was calling the characters spoiled). She also said that I should’ve put some thought into my review before I wrote it and that I was completely wrong.

giphy (3).gif

I’m not going to lie–it upset me a little–and I messaged her back to kindly tell her that these were my thoughts and my HONEST opinions on the book. I also explained that I’m entitled to my own thoughts and opinions just as she is to hers. I pointed out that she read my spoiler title incorrectly and that I simply called the characters flat and the story boring.

It really got me thinking and now I’ve seen some people talk about how book reviews should be written. This is just adding more stress because now we are talking about how a review should be written and not just our personal tastes. This bothers me. Continue reading “Rant: It’s MY Review and There Aren’t Laws!”

A Dramatic Family Reunion

For about two years, I was the caretaker of a little girl that belonged to a family friend. We would take care of her roughly three to four days a week and had to regularly deal with her parents who were split up. It was difficult dealing with them because they didn’t get along at all and stress seemed to always be heightened. If she would get a scraped knee, or a bruise, I always felt like I had to have this explanation to prove everything because her parents were hyper-vigilant. Living in the country, you just expect that your kids are going to have injuries sometimes from running around in the woods or getting into things. In general, kids get injuries no matter where they live. I finally decided that after two years of babysitting, I needed to stop. I told her parents that they would have to find someone else for a caretaker because I couldn’t handle the stress anymore and felt that I needed to concentrate on my own life and children. I decided at that point that I didn’t want to be responsible for someone else’s child anymore.

Then, last September, our dog Cynder had puppies. Those who follow my posts know that we kept one puppy (Bowie), and the other two have homes not far from ours. When Fig was purchased, his owner mentioned letting us see him again and I finally got the text last week asking if we wanted to dog sit for the weekend. The kids were elated and after discussing it with my husband, we decided it would be okay. We were going to see Fig again! How lucky could we be?

12113.jpeg
Baby Fig with Rambo the cat.

Continue reading “A Dramatic Family Reunion”